Doing what you love will make you happy, but loving what you do will bring you Bliss.
Too often we postpone joy. We thank God it's Friday, we look at vacation brochures, we wait for the kids to grow. Happiness always seems to be something we have to "get to" rather than something we create for ourselves.
We judge our moments. We think that one is better than the other. And, yes, of course some things are really, really good and some things are really, really bad. Life is a cycle after all… but I'm not talking about the biggest moments in your life. I'm talking about where you spend most of your day… usually somewhere in the middle.
The big question to ask yourself is "am I enjoying what I'm doing at this very moment?" (since you're reading this article right now, I hope your answer is yes, but that's another story). So when this moment has passed, when you're in another moment, ask again.
If the answer is no, ask yourself why not. If it's neither a bad moment nor a good moment, are you judging it because you think you should be doing something more exciting… more fulfilling?
Did you know it will take more energy to go off and do something else than it would to simply let go of judgment and just experience it?
One of my favorite stories is of the monk and the Buddha. The monk asks "how can I get rid of my desire to eat and to sleep?" The Buddha replies, "eat, sleep."
The answer really is simple. It's not more complicated than eat, sleep, bathe, take out the trash, do laundry… so enjoy them!! Don't judge it. Don't wish you were somewhere else. Just do each moment with Love.
There are people who would love the luxury of a hot shower or a cold drink. Don't take what you have for granted. Experience your moments as if for the first time, or as if for the last time. Become present in the Present. Happiness isn't something we get OUT of life, it's something we put INTO it.
So enjoy this moment… and your next one too.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Friday, January 23, 2009
Invaded by Fear...
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Thursday, January 15, 2009
Optimism = Option for Opportunity
A Pessimist walks into the barn, steps in manure and says "There goes a good pair of boots!"
An Optimist walks into the barn, steps in manure and says "Where's the pony?"
The same events happen to all people - good, bad and indifferent. People just don't realize how much they shape their own experience. Your attitude really does change everything. It not only tints your experience; it dictates the decisions you make next, that have a very direct impact on your future.
A perfect example is company "reorgs" - where lots of employees get shifted around from department to department. It's very uncertain; with people getting half the picture, if at all. They're left to fill in the blanks with their own imagination.
This is where I see the biggest difference between Pessimists and Optimists. The Pessimists paint the whole world with doom-and-gloom, and resign themselves to the "way it is." They say things like "we have no choice" and "it's only going to get worse."
Optimists, on the other hand, are seen as naive, hopeless and hapless... at least by the Pessimists (who by this point are labeling themselves the "Realists"). What the Pessimists often miss are the subtle differences between the Passive Optimists and the Active Optimists.
Passive Optimists are the "hope for the best crowd" that often prove the Pessimists right. The Active Optimists, on the other hand, are the ones that can really take advantage of change -- in the office and everywhere. Here's some qualities of the Active Optimist:
Opportunities don't often come to those that just sit there. By being Active, the Optimist takes actual steps that could lead to advancement. By staying positive, they also have an effect on others that the Pessimists don't. That alone can make all the difference in the world.
An Optimist walks into the barn, steps in manure and says "Where's the pony?"
The same events happen to all people - good, bad and indifferent. People just don't realize how much they shape their own experience. Your attitude really does change everything. It not only tints your experience; it dictates the decisions you make next, that have a very direct impact on your future.
A perfect example is company "reorgs" - where lots of employees get shifted around from department to department. It's very uncertain; with people getting half the picture, if at all. They're left to fill in the blanks with their own imagination.
This is where I see the biggest difference between Pessimists and Optimists. The Pessimists paint the whole world with doom-and-gloom, and resign themselves to the "way it is." They say things like "we have no choice" and "it's only going to get worse."
Optimists, on the other hand, are seen as naive, hopeless and hapless... at least by the Pessimists (who by this point are labeling themselves the "Realists"). What the Pessimists often miss are the subtle differences between the Passive Optimists and the Active Optimists.
Passive Optimists are the "hope for the best crowd" that often prove the Pessimists right. The Active Optimists, on the other hand, are the ones that can really take advantage of change -- in the office and everywhere. Here's some qualities of the Active Optimist:
- Not afraid of change
- Sees opportunities in every move
- Doesn't let negative events stop them
- Doesn't sit by and wait to be victimized
- If they don't see an opportunity, they seek one
- They stay proactive, not reactive
- Does what they can to keep the spirits up of those around them
- Gets up one time more than they are knocked down
Opportunities don't often come to those that just sit there. By being Active, the Optimist takes actual steps that could lead to advancement. By staying positive, they also have an effect on others that the Pessimists don't. That alone can make all the difference in the world.
Saturday, January 03, 2009
The Best Policy
Now be honest with yourself…. Do you think you're honest? Do you think other people are? Do you really think that honesty is the best policy? Do you really want others to be honest? Can you handle the truth?
Well, to be honest with you… I don't have the answers to that. I have MY answers, sure… but I can't honestly say that those are the right answers.
Well, right or wrong, can you handle this article? If so, read on, gentle readers…
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It takes a lot of courage to live your life honestly. It doesn't always get you out of a troubled spot; it can even make things worse. "Honey, does this outfit make me look fat?" is a place where your honesty may never win.
In any case, here's one path to getting yourself to a more honest life:
Face everything head on.
Look at your life as it is, not how you think it should/could/would be. Look at it without judgment. Whenever you become defensive or judgmental about yourself or those things around you, you automatically build walls between you and whatever it is you think is threatening you. This could be anything, from other people and their criticisms of you to your own judgment of yourself.
Be Truthful.
Live with right information, with yourself and others. You don't have to tell your most private thoughts and feelings to every nosey person out there. It just means not being false (Remember that "it's none of your business" is a truth you can also live with.)
Accept it.
You don't have to like the truth, just accept it as Truth. Dealing with the truth is a better foundation to build upon than anything else.
Leave it alone.
Stop twisting things out of shape to fit your moments. You don't have to cover up the truth, decorate it or force it into any mold. "Truth will out," isn't that the way the saying goes? Truth, when left to itself, is truthful. All it needs is your encouragement.
Live as if Truth matters.
If you don't value the truth, you won't honor it. Put Truth above your personal feelings of safety. Make it matter enough to seek it, hold it; live it.
And just for the record, my answers to the questions are "for the most part" ...
...and that's the truth :-)
Well, to be honest with you… I don't have the answers to that. I have MY answers, sure… but I can't honestly say that those are the right answers.
Well, right or wrong, can you handle this article? If so, read on, gentle readers…
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It takes a lot of courage to live your life honestly. It doesn't always get you out of a troubled spot; it can even make things worse. "Honey, does this outfit make me look fat?" is a place where your honesty may never win.
In any case, here's one path to getting yourself to a more honest life:
Face everything head on.
Look at your life as it is, not how you think it should/could/would be. Look at it without judgment. Whenever you become defensive or judgmental about yourself or those things around you, you automatically build walls between you and whatever it is you think is threatening you. This could be anything, from other people and their criticisms of you to your own judgment of yourself.
Be Truthful.
Live with right information, with yourself and others. You don't have to tell your most private thoughts and feelings to every nosey person out there. It just means not being false (Remember that "it's none of your business" is a truth you can also live with.)
Accept it.
You don't have to like the truth, just accept it as Truth. Dealing with the truth is a better foundation to build upon than anything else.
Leave it alone.
Stop twisting things out of shape to fit your moments. You don't have to cover up the truth, decorate it or force it into any mold. "Truth will out," isn't that the way the saying goes? Truth, when left to itself, is truthful. All it needs is your encouragement.
Live as if Truth matters.
If you don't value the truth, you won't honor it. Put Truth above your personal feelings of safety. Make it matter enough to seek it, hold it; live it.
And just for the record, my answers to the questions are "for the most part" ...
...and that's the truth :-)
Thursday, January 01, 2009
Happy New You
A new year is like a blank canvas, waiting for you to paint your masterpiece.
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Well, Happy New Year everyone. I hope you all had your chance to celebrate another year last night and are looking forward to a brand new one.
There's something about a new year that's exciting. Resolutions are in the air and everyone is fired up to make positive changes in their lives.
It's just really important NOT to make New Year's resolutions, but rather Life Changing Revolutions. Resolutions have a bad reputation of having an expiration date. No one really blames you for quitting in February; in fact they applaud you if you make it to March.
The main focus needs to be on the New You, not the New Year. Think about where you want to be New Year's Day next year... who do you want to be... how do you want to live?
A New You is an every day thing. I've vowed to keep being the person I like, and just stop doing the things that stop me from being all that I can be.
I've created a calendar to help me do that. I'll be adding forms to it over the year and making it even better. For those that buy it, the new forms are free.
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Well, Happy New Year everyone. I hope you all had your chance to celebrate another year last night and are looking forward to a brand new one.
There's something about a new year that's exciting. Resolutions are in the air and everyone is fired up to make positive changes in their lives.
It's just really important NOT to make New Year's resolutions, but rather Life Changing Revolutions. Resolutions have a bad reputation of having an expiration date. No one really blames you for quitting in February; in fact they applaud you if you make it to March.
The main focus needs to be on the New You, not the New Year. Think about where you want to be New Year's Day next year... who do you want to be... how do you want to live?
A New You is an every day thing. I've vowed to keep being the person I like, and just stop doing the things that stop me from being all that I can be.
I've created a calendar to help me do that. I'll be adding forms to it over the year and making it even better. For those that buy it, the new forms are free.
It's important to write out your goals and come to understand why you have them, what you want with them and what you want to get from them. Otherwise, we'll rely on our old habits, getting the same results we've always gotten. If we're happy with that, great! If not, there's no time like the present to be who you're going to be in the future.
Make '07 your lucky year!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Shoulda, Time Stealer
GURUSTU NEWS (GN) A dangerous criminal "Should" escaped around New Years, during Resolution Season. Also known as "Shoulda," has been seen with accomplices, "Coulda" and "Woulda." They are very dangerous, and have been known to steal, and even kill, Time...
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In both of its forms, "Should" and "Shoulda" have a way of wasting your time; and it's gotta stop!
"Should" is that thing that you just HAVE to do, but know you're really not going to do it... so you say it to acknowledge that it's the right thing to do... all the while reprimanding yourself for not doing it sooner, if at all...
"Shoulda" is the same thing, only you're facing the wrong way. You're looking back, full of regret and 20/20 hindsight... and slapping yourself because you SHOULD have known better.
Well, you didn't know better... and if you did, you made different choices then than you would now. In any of case, just get over it.
The easiest fix to all this is to forget the shoulda's, focus on tomorrow and either replace the "should do's" with the "will do's" or just don't do.
You really should drop "should" from your vocabulary, shouldn't you?
So will you?
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In both of its forms, "Should" and "Shoulda" have a way of wasting your time; and it's gotta stop!
"Should" is that thing that you just HAVE to do, but know you're really not going to do it... so you say it to acknowledge that it's the right thing to do... all the while reprimanding yourself for not doing it sooner, if at all...
"Shoulda" is the same thing, only you're facing the wrong way. You're looking back, full of regret and 20/20 hindsight... and slapping yourself because you SHOULD have known better.
Well, you didn't know better... and if you did, you made different choices then than you would now. In any of case, just get over it.
The easiest fix to all this is to forget the shoulda's, focus on tomorrow and either replace the "should do's" with the "will do's" or just don't do.
You really should drop "should" from your vocabulary, shouldn't you?
So will you?
Monday, December 15, 2008
Don´t Blame Me!!
Pointing the finger isn't just child's play. We still do it as adults... every day. And as long as it's "someone else's problem" we can just ignore it, right?... unfortunately that also robs us of something more important - our own empowerment.
Putting off problems to someone else doesn't solve it. In fact, it can come back and haunt you even more. So rather than deflect and defer, why not respect and respond?
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Don't look for someone or something to blame
Think of how much further you'll get if you spend your time looking for solutions. Besides, if you find someone else to blame, think of how much time they're going to lose blaming YOU.
Taking the responsibility isn't taking the blame
Being "responsible" puts you in a position of power... and being in power means that you can help control how the solution will be implemented. Are you really comfortable with someone else's solution?
Make Allegiances
Form a team of allies; especially with the person who started the blame game. There is less resistance if your "enemy" becomes your "ally," and that will get you to the solution quicker.
Keep relationships intact
Remember that the relationship between people is more important than winning an argument. If you can all value that, no problem is too big to tackle.
Keep focus on the solutions
There's a natural tendency to want to figure out what went wrong, so as not to do it again. Nothing wrong with that, except when the return on that investment amounts to very little. Before you begin to look back, ask yourself if it would be better to just keep looking forward. Some things are better just fixed and forgotten.
Learn and move on
When it's all over, then you can review and see what NOT to do again in the future. Then, once you learned something GET ON WITH IT.
Putting off problems to someone else doesn't solve it. In fact, it can come back and haunt you even more. So rather than deflect and defer, why not respect and respond?
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Don't look for someone or something to blame
Think of how much further you'll get if you spend your time looking for solutions. Besides, if you find someone else to blame, think of how much time they're going to lose blaming YOU.
Taking the responsibility isn't taking the blame
Being "responsible" puts you in a position of power... and being in power means that you can help control how the solution will be implemented. Are you really comfortable with someone else's solution?
Make Allegiances
Form a team of allies; especially with the person who started the blame game. There is less resistance if your "enemy" becomes your "ally," and that will get you to the solution quicker.
Keep relationships intact
Remember that the relationship between people is more important than winning an argument. If you can all value that, no problem is too big to tackle.
Keep focus on the solutions
There's a natural tendency to want to figure out what went wrong, so as not to do it again. Nothing wrong with that, except when the return on that investment amounts to very little. Before you begin to look back, ask yourself if it would be better to just keep looking forward. Some things are better just fixed and forgotten.
Learn and move on
When it's all over, then you can review and see what NOT to do again in the future. Then, once you learned something GET ON WITH IT.
Saturday, December 06, 2008
You Got It...
You've got all you need to move to the next level... because if Time is infinite into the Past and equally infinite into the Future, then you are in the exact center of Time... and being in the center you have 360 degrees of choice in every moment... so don't worry about the "Big Picture."
There is no "Big Picture"
Even if there ARE "Master Plans" and "Grand Schemes" out there, when you get far enough away to see the "Big Picture" ... with all the people, and all the moments, and all the 360 degrees ... you will see that the real Big Picture is nothing but a Sea of Endless Possibilities...
Even if it's easier...
Remember, you always have the Choice and the Power to make a different choice.
And you don't need anything you don't already have...
There's 360 choices in this very moment...
The Bigger Picture is only seen after many next steps...
There is no "Big Picture"
Even if there ARE "Master Plans" and "Grand Schemes" out there, when you get far enough away to see the "Big Picture" ... with all the people, and all the moments, and all the 360 degrees ... you will see that the real Big Picture is nothing but a Sea of Endless Possibilities...
... and your life is seen simply as a Pattern along one Path.
Even if it's easier...
... to do what you did before...
... or do nothing...
Remember, you always have the Choice and the Power to make a different choice.
And you don't need anything you don't already have...
... to move to that next step.
There's 360 choices in this very moment...
... and the next one as well.
The Bigger Picture is only seen after many next steps...
... so choose one
... and take it.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Being Thankful...
I'm thankful for good times, for those are the days I live
and also for bad, 'cause that's when I learn the most about Life
I'm thankful for the people who've come into my life,
And those that just passed by
I'm thankful for all that I know; and all that I don't
I thankful for the things I have, because they make me feel rich
And all the things I don't, for they make me richer
I'm thankful for the food in my belly and the roof over my head
They're not as easy to come by as one would think
I thankful I still have dreams; and thankful that I'm finding a way to make those dreams come true.
and also for bad, 'cause that's when I learn the most about Life
I'm thankful for the people who've come into my life,
And those that just passed by
I'm thankful for all that I know; and all that I don't
I thankful for the things I have, because they make me feel rich
And all the things I don't, for they make me richer
I'm thankful for the food in my belly and the roof over my head
They're not as easy to come by as one would think
I thankful I still have dreams; and thankful that I'm finding a way to make those dreams come true.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Guilt Trip to a Family Dysfunction
Are you going to be taking a guilt trip to another family dysfunction again this year?
As you prepare to trek across the miles to see your sister, with her out of work husband and two bratty kids... thinking about your drunk uncle, and mother who thinks you've still not got your life together... there's more to take with you besides just presents and fruitcake.
Before you go and end up with a repeat performance of last year, read on and make your season a little brighter...
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Make sure to pack these in your suitcase to bring with you:
Patience
Realize that some people may never change. It's their life, not yours. They might be making the same mistakes they did for years; they may or may not be trying to change it. Don't let that get to you.
Openmindedness
Realize that some people may actually have changed. Don't assume they're the same, don't treat them the same; don't force them ro treat you the same way either.
Understanding
People go through a lot in one year. There might be a lot going on "behind the scenes" that you don't know about. Get the whole story before jumping into judgement.
Perserverence
Be who you are today. Reunions have a tendancy to put you back into old roles and old habits. Don't change because someone else wants to pigeonhole you into history.
Tolerance
People are just different. If you don't like it, it's YOUR judgement, and YOUR problem. Deal with yourself, and you'll be happier about everything else.
Forgiveness
The best present you can have is to let go of the past. Even if others have a hard time forgiving, that's also not your problem. Be the bigger person and forgive them for not forgiving you.
Love
It's what ultimately works best. Find a way to do everything out of Love, and you will find the true spirit of the holidays and of your life.
As you prepare to trek across the miles to see your sister, with her out of work husband and two bratty kids... thinking about your drunk uncle, and mother who thinks you've still not got your life together... there's more to take with you besides just presents and fruitcake.
Before you go and end up with a repeat performance of last year, read on and make your season a little brighter...
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Make sure to pack these in your suitcase to bring with you:
Patience
Realize that some people may never change. It's their life, not yours. They might be making the same mistakes they did for years; they may or may not be trying to change it. Don't let that get to you.
Openmindedness
Realize that some people may actually have changed. Don't assume they're the same, don't treat them the same; don't force them ro treat you the same way either.
Understanding
People go through a lot in one year. There might be a lot going on "behind the scenes" that you don't know about. Get the whole story before jumping into judgement.
Perserverence
Be who you are today. Reunions have a tendancy to put you back into old roles and old habits. Don't change because someone else wants to pigeonhole you into history.
Tolerance
People are just different. If you don't like it, it's YOUR judgement, and YOUR problem. Deal with yourself, and you'll be happier about everything else.
Forgiveness
The best present you can have is to let go of the past. Even if others have a hard time forgiving, that's also not your problem. Be the bigger person and forgive them for not forgiving you.
Love
It's what ultimately works best. Find a way to do everything out of Love, and you will find the true spirit of the holidays and of your life.
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Letting Go
Arghhhhh.... !!!!!
You ever have one of those days that you just wish you could be left alone? That you didn't have so much you had to do? That you didn't have to be YOU?
Well, you can... without changing anything outside yourself... without changing anything you do.
"Impossible!" you say? No, but it won't necessarily be easy, or even understandable... at least until you try it.
The secret is in "Letting go."
So as not to get your mind going off in the wrong direction, let me start by saying what "Letting Go" is NOT:
Isolation
You don't have to separate yourself from anyone or anything. Just because you go from birth to death on your own, doesn't mean you have to go it alone. You can share your life with many wonderful people; you can partake of many wonderful things; and still be free.
Abandonment
Leaving the people you care about just to be "free" will probably make things worse. Creating a void for you and everyone else is not "free" -- it's the other side of free, which is debt... and that's a bad thing.
Desolation
Getting rid of the things you own can also be a bad idea. "Using possessions" and possessing things are completely different things entirely. Besides -- having a car means you can be "freer" on the weekends.
Forgetting
You don't have to lose your memory to be free either. If someone has wronged you in the past, you don't have to forget what they've done, nor give them permission to do it again...
Which brings us to what "Letting Go" is:
Forgiveness
Coming to a deeper understanding that people are human; they sometimes make mistakes. Sometimes they lack the appropriate knowledge or consideration, so they strike out from their own ignorance or pain. YOU have the power to forgive.
Understanding
Not just of others, but of yourself. You too are human and have your fair share of "oops." It is a deeper understanding that you play as important a role in the lives of others, as they have a role in yours.
Free From Expectations
This is the biggest one. As long as you don't expect anything, everything can be as it really is.
Non-attachment to people
Freedom to experience others, and to express yourself, with no strings attached. And the closer other people are to you, the less you should even think of strings.
Non-attachment to possessions
Again, experience the joy of using the things around you, but never being possessive of those things.
Unconditional Life
Once you no longer feel the need to possess objects or people, you can let go of expectations; you can live... just live.
Once you've got that, it's an amazing feeling to possess.
(Did I say "possess"??? Well, forget that too...)
Let go... live free... have it all.
You ever have one of those days that you just wish you could be left alone? That you didn't have so much you had to do? That you didn't have to be YOU?
Well, you can... without changing anything outside yourself... without changing anything you do.
"Impossible!" you say? No, but it won't necessarily be easy, or even understandable... at least until you try it.
The secret is in "Letting go."
So as not to get your mind going off in the wrong direction, let me start by saying what "Letting Go" is NOT:
Isolation
You don't have to separate yourself from anyone or anything. Just because you go from birth to death on your own, doesn't mean you have to go it alone. You can share your life with many wonderful people; you can partake of many wonderful things; and still be free.
Abandonment
Leaving the people you care about just to be "free" will probably make things worse. Creating a void for you and everyone else is not "free" -- it's the other side of free, which is debt... and that's a bad thing.
Desolation
Getting rid of the things you own can also be a bad idea. "Using possessions" and possessing things are completely different things entirely. Besides -- having a car means you can be "freer" on the weekends.
Forgetting
You don't have to lose your memory to be free either. If someone has wronged you in the past, you don't have to forget what they've done, nor give them permission to do it again...
Which brings us to what "Letting Go" is:
Forgiveness
Coming to a deeper understanding that people are human; they sometimes make mistakes. Sometimes they lack the appropriate knowledge or consideration, so they strike out from their own ignorance or pain. YOU have the power to forgive.
Understanding
Not just of others, but of yourself. You too are human and have your fair share of "oops." It is a deeper understanding that you play as important a role in the lives of others, as they have a role in yours.
Free From Expectations
This is the biggest one. As long as you don't expect anything, everything can be as it really is.
Non-attachment to people
Freedom to experience others, and to express yourself, with no strings attached. And the closer other people are to you, the less you should even think of strings.
Non-attachment to possessions
Again, experience the joy of using the things around you, but never being possessive of those things.
Unconditional Life
Once you no longer feel the need to possess objects or people, you can let go of expectations; you can live... just live.
Once you've got that, it's an amazing feeling to possess.
(Did I say "possess"??? Well, forget that too...)
Let go... live free... have it all.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Put Your Dreams Into Action
Why is it we look at dreamers like good-for-nothing slackers, yet successful people as "Visionaries." Don't they both have dreams? So what's the big difference?
Simple... Visionaries actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Begin with a dream
Visionaries understand that the greatest actions in life begin with a dream. Afterall, a dream is a "vision;" it's a way of seeing something different. All the great visionaries of history looked at the same world everyone else did, and dreamed of something different.
Believe it can be done
As long as you see your dreams as something left to dreamers, then you will never attain them. They will be out of your reach because you won't give them the necessary energy and time needed to make them happen. You have to BELIEVE that it can be done, so that you're willing to do what it takes to get there.
Dreams + Devotion = Goals
Do it your way
There are billions of people on this planet, yet only one you. So do you choose to be 1/6000000000th of the world, or one in 6 billion?
Don't please everyone
Trying to be all things to all people averages you out to the middle. The best you will ever do is rise to the level mediocrity. Choose to reach the top, and let those that want to be down, stay down. Rise up to the highest level you can, despite what others might think.
Make no excuses
Nothing kills a dream better than an excuse. "I really couldn't" ... "I don't have the time" ... "If only I had this/didn't have that" ... There will always be a millions reasons why you failed, but only one if you succeed -- you didn't give up.
Break your goals down into managable chunks
Your goals might be much bigger than you are... at least right now; so instead of giving up, break it down. One of my favorite sayings:
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.*
Set deadlines
Reaching goals actually take time. So set some actual, realistic dates. The worked towards them. That's what breaking them down into the manageable chunks is all about.
Do something every day
Back to the fact that every goals takes time. What do you think you have during your day? Time. Use it. Even if it's only a little bit.
Every drop of rain makes the river stronger.
Be open to alternate routes to the same goals
Sometimes what you're trying to do doesn't work; so stop doing it that way. Learn from it, and move on to a better way of getting there.
A rock may change the river's course, but it does not change the river.
It's not about being in the right place at the right time
It's about being everywhere and knowing when to take advantage of the opportunities that are around you.
When in doubt, repeat
There will be down times and sad times and slow times. That's when you ought to take the time to go back and remind yourself of your original dream. They start down the path again.
* Disclaimer: To all my friends at PETA and other animal rights groups. I've never actually eaten an elephant. I never even wanted to eat an elephant. In fact, I don't even think they'd taste like chicken.
Simple... Visionaries actually DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Begin with a dream
Visionaries understand that the greatest actions in life begin with a dream. Afterall, a dream is a "vision;" it's a way of seeing something different. All the great visionaries of history looked at the same world everyone else did, and dreamed of something different.
Believe it can be done
As long as you see your dreams as something left to dreamers, then you will never attain them. They will be out of your reach because you won't give them the necessary energy and time needed to make them happen. You have to BELIEVE that it can be done, so that you're willing to do what it takes to get there.
Dreams + Devotion = Goals
Do it your way
There are billions of people on this planet, yet only one you. So do you choose to be 1/6000000000th of the world, or one in 6 billion?
Don't please everyone
Trying to be all things to all people averages you out to the middle. The best you will ever do is rise to the level mediocrity. Choose to reach the top, and let those that want to be down, stay down. Rise up to the highest level you can, despite what others might think.
Make no excuses
Nothing kills a dream better than an excuse. "I really couldn't" ... "I don't have the time" ... "If only I had this/didn't have that" ... There will always be a millions reasons why you failed, but only one if you succeed -- you didn't give up.
Break your goals down into managable chunks
Your goals might be much bigger than you are... at least right now; so instead of giving up, break it down. One of my favorite sayings:
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.*
Set deadlines
Reaching goals actually take time. So set some actual, realistic dates. The worked towards them. That's what breaking them down into the manageable chunks is all about.
Do something every day
Back to the fact that every goals takes time. What do you think you have during your day? Time. Use it. Even if it's only a little bit.
Every drop of rain makes the river stronger.
Be open to alternate routes to the same goals
Sometimes what you're trying to do doesn't work; so stop doing it that way. Learn from it, and move on to a better way of getting there.
A rock may change the river's course, but it does not change the river.
It's not about being in the right place at the right time
It's about being everywhere and knowing when to take advantage of the opportunities that are around you.
When in doubt, repeat
There will be down times and sad times and slow times. That's when you ought to take the time to go back and remind yourself of your original dream. They start down the path again.
* Disclaimer: To all my friends at PETA and other animal rights groups. I've never actually eaten an elephant. I never even wanted to eat an elephant. In fact, I don't even think they'd taste like chicken.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Second Chances...
Welcome to GuruMuse... MuruStu's... GuruStu's Muse!... There you go, I knew I'd get it right eventually.
That's what I want to talk about today... getting it right the SECOND time...
Why do we do things wrong the first time only to have to make up for it the next time?
You know that saying "You only get one chance to make a first impression" so why do we botch it up?! It's the strength of that belief that puts a lot of pressure on you to get it right... the more important you make that first meeting, the more pressure there is.
Now, how well do you handle pressure? If you perform well, then your first impression has a good chance of going well. If you crumble, so might your reputation.
I think first impressions are overrated...
Sure it's important to be at your best at important times, but if another person is going to continue to judge you because of that first impression, you don't need them.
Keep this in mind, whenever you give more importance to someone else's opinion of you then you give up your power to make a good impression. If you let someone else decide if you're good enough, you lose the control over your own self-esteem... and without your self-esteem, how can you expect to make a good impression?
Okay, let's look at those situations where someone decides your fate, like a job interview. True, someone else decides whether you're good enough. Yes, their opinion matters greatly and you only one chance to make a first impression. It's got all the conditions we're talking about... so it would seem that everything I just said should go out the window, right?
Wrong. Even though your job is dependent on their decision, even though your income and even your future livelihood is going to be affected... your self-esteem does not have to be destroyed by a possible rejection... the imposed pressure does not have to get you down.
When it comes to a job... you have to know, it's just a job. As the famous saying goes, no one ever said on their death bed that they wish they had spent more time at the office.
Haven't you had jobs you've hated? Jobs you felt weren't right for you? So what makes you think this next one will be all that much better?
Don't make such a big assumption about the importance of the employment. In english that means... don't make a mountain out of a molehill.
Your self-esteem is dependent on how you feel about yourself, not on how you think others feel about you... that's why it's called self-esteem and not other-esteem.
If you feel good about yourself, if you have confidence in what you do, if you don't let the pressure of other people's opinions affect you... then you can focus on being your best and not on someone else's first impression.
The first thing to help you get over first impression depression is to take away your fear... and you do that by not putting more importance on their opinion than on your own self-worth...
Don't undervalue yourself... and you won't overwhelm yourself...
Pressure is not an outside force, it's a response that comes from inside. We may have deadlines, we may try to do too much in a small amount of time or try to do something better than everybody else, but those are all circumstances. The pressure that you feel is all your own doing. Keeping yourself composed, working at your fastest pace and at the best of your ability is all you can expect of yourself. Striving to make yourself better is one thing... so is competing to be the best... but expecting too much can be downrigth exhausting and totally unproductive.
It's expectations that cause pressure... especially when things don't go as hoped for... especially if you've put a lot of faith into those expectations. If you've changed your life to accommodate your wishes and they don't come true, then your fall can be that much bigger.
But what if those expectations came from a promise? What if someone else made a vow to you, built up those hopes and dreams, strengthened those expectations, only to let you down? What good are second chances then?
Unfortunately though, not everyone gets that second chance... because some people are unforgiving of a mistake... and so neither one of them gets a chance to make it better... healing does not take place and the people involved carry the wounds through the rest of their lives.
I've seen that with friends and even members of my own family... they've been carrying the wounds of years ago, letting it tear them apart, both apart inside and apart from each other. I wonder, is anything really worth losing time?
If you find yourself having a hard time dealing with another's mistake, try your best to understand it... take a step back and look at it from a different perspective. Overcome your wounded pride and talk it out. Make it better before it makes you worse.
And if you've ever made a mistake in your life... and I sure every one of us has... then don't allow yourself to become so engrossed in your own embarrassment that you give up.
You never fail until you quit trying
Failure is Life's way of giving you a lesson. If you let it get to you, then you won't learn the lesson you need to...
Keep the light on!
That's what I want to talk about today... getting it right the SECOND time...
Why do we do things wrong the first time only to have to make up for it the next time?
You know that saying "You only get one chance to make a first impression" so why do we botch it up?! It's the strength of that belief that puts a lot of pressure on you to get it right... the more important you make that first meeting, the more pressure there is.
Now, how well do you handle pressure? If you perform well, then your first impression has a good chance of going well. If you crumble, so might your reputation.
I think first impressions are overrated...
Sure it's important to be at your best at important times, but if another person is going to continue to judge you because of that first impression, you don't need them.
Keep this in mind, whenever you give more importance to someone else's opinion of you then you give up your power to make a good impression. If you let someone else decide if you're good enough, you lose the control over your own self-esteem... and without your self-esteem, how can you expect to make a good impression?
Okay, let's look at those situations where someone decides your fate, like a job interview. True, someone else decides whether you're good enough. Yes, their opinion matters greatly and you only one chance to make a first impression. It's got all the conditions we're talking about... so it would seem that everything I just said should go out the window, right?
Wrong. Even though your job is dependent on their decision, even though your income and even your future livelihood is going to be affected... your self-esteem does not have to be destroyed by a possible rejection... the imposed pressure does not have to get you down.
When it comes to a job... you have to know, it's just a job. As the famous saying goes, no one ever said on their death bed that they wish they had spent more time at the office.
Haven't you had jobs you've hated? Jobs you felt weren't right for you? So what makes you think this next one will be all that much better?
Don't make such a big assumption about the importance of the employment. In english that means... don't make a mountain out of a molehill.
Your self-esteem is dependent on how you feel about yourself, not on how you think others feel about you... that's why it's called self-esteem and not other-esteem.
If you feel good about yourself, if you have confidence in what you do, if you don't let the pressure of other people's opinions affect you... then you can focus on being your best and not on someone else's first impression.
The first thing to help you get over first impression depression is to take away your fear... and you do that by not putting more importance on their opinion than on your own self-worth...
Don't undervalue yourself... and you won't overwhelm yourself...
Pressure is not an outside force, it's a response that comes from inside. We may have deadlines, we may try to do too much in a small amount of time or try to do something better than everybody else, but those are all circumstances. The pressure that you feel is all your own doing. Keeping yourself composed, working at your fastest pace and at the best of your ability is all you can expect of yourself. Striving to make yourself better is one thing... so is competing to be the best... but expecting too much can be downrigth exhausting and totally unproductive.
It's expectations that cause pressure... especially when things don't go as hoped for... especially if you've put a lot of faith into those expectations. If you've changed your life to accommodate your wishes and they don't come true, then your fall can be that much bigger.
But what if those expectations came from a promise? What if someone else made a vow to you, built up those hopes and dreams, strengthened those expectations, only to let you down? What good are second chances then?
Unfortunately though, not everyone gets that second chance... because some people are unforgiving of a mistake... and so neither one of them gets a chance to make it better... healing does not take place and the people involved carry the wounds through the rest of their lives.
I've seen that with friends and even members of my own family... they've been carrying the wounds of years ago, letting it tear them apart, both apart inside and apart from each other. I wonder, is anything really worth losing time?
If you find yourself having a hard time dealing with another's mistake, try your best to understand it... take a step back and look at it from a different perspective. Overcome your wounded pride and talk it out. Make it better before it makes you worse.
And if you've ever made a mistake in your life... and I sure every one of us has... then don't allow yourself to become so engrossed in your own embarrassment that you give up.
You never fail until you quit trying
Failure is Life's way of giving you a lesson. If you let it get to you, then you won't learn the lesson you need to...
Keep the light on!
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
Value your time
Taking the assertion E=MC2 and equating "E" to energy, being equal to "M", meaning minutes, multiplied by the square of "C", which stands for Cash, we can prove, unequivocally that Time does indeed equal Money.
You know, you can have more or less money than the next person... you can even have more or less money than you did just yesterday... but the thing we all have an equal amount of is time. We may not have equal number of days, but each of us has twenty four hours to each day we have... and each of us has the same amount in this day than we did yesterday.
Time, it doesn't matter how much of it you have... it matters how much you do with it.
There never seems to be enough time, to do the things you want to do, once you find them... why is that? What is Time, anyway?
Scientists, philosophers and, yes, even Gurus have pondered that question since the beginning of time. It's as if if we could just figure out what time is, then maybe we can do something more with it. People play with time all the time... they want to speed it up when they're young... slow it down when they're old... go back and change just a few things here and there.
One reason we don't change time like that is because we'd end up losing so much of Life's Little Lessons. Time is an experience of sequences. It gives us a chance to see different aspects of the same thing... watching the seasons change, for instance... or watching a puppy turn into a full grown dog... watching ourselves grow...
Do you really think that if we never saw ourselves change, we would really be motivated to change our lives? You know, a lot of the things we do are motivated by the fact that we see our bodies change, we see time as something we have less of... and so, we need that in order to get off our duffs and do something with our lives.
Time is here so we don't have to do everything at once. We can structure things. Our lives can be built on a cycle of growth and decay. It's so we can see our lives one piece at a time, moving around it so that we can get every possible angle in before we have to leave this world behind. Time is part of the experience. Life would never be the same without it.
And yet a sad part of all this is... how many people really do something with their time? What do you do with it?
Do you find yourself getting caught up in time, constantly worried about deadlines, rushing to get to work, speed-eating your lunch, rushing off to home... rush rush rush?
Or do you find yourself lagging behind, seemingly waiting for your life to begin?
The biggest question today is, are you happy with your life?
Are you at peace with Time?
You know the old adage, "No one has ever said on their death beds that they had wished to spend more time at the office." Are you taking the time out to enjoy the moment?
And if you're one of the slow pokes, are you waiting for your life to come bump you in the butt? Are you waiting for someone else to come live your life for you? What are you waiting for?
Here's one for you, are you one of those that find yourself always doing too much... always doing things for everyone else, but yourself... never able to say "no"... always feeling so good when you're helping someone else, but always feeling guilty when doing something for yourself? (Got you pegged, huh?)
Well, I've got the answer for all of you... for those that do too much, for those that don't do enough... for anyone who wants to be at peace with themselves and with Time. Here is the key to solving this problem:
When it comes to Time, Value Your Own. Period.
Seems simple, doesn't it? If you take a closer look though, you'll understand that it's far more comprehensive than that.
Now notice, I didn't tell you how to value your time. I didn't tell you to take a vacation, or to work extra hours, or get a new job or even a new life. I'm asking you to add just one more thing to your life... and that's value. believe me, the rest will take care of itself.
Let me show you how.
Say for instance you have a hard time saying "no" to people. "Can you take care of Little Billy for me this weekend?" "Can you stay an extra two hours to finish up this project?" "Can you give me... get me... buy me... blah blah blah."
Now, if you valued your time, you may still do these things. Of course you would love to stay with Billy or work longer, but this time, you'll be doing it because you want to and not because you'll be manipulated... And, if you would rather do something else besides "blah, blah, blah", then that choice, too, will be up to you. You will be valuing your time... making decisions based on what is good for you?
Now is there something wrong with that? Is a little voice going off beside your ear saying, "I could never turn them down, it would make me feel bad" or worse yet, "That would be selfish of me to do that!"
Would it? Would it actually be selfish if you took time for yourself? If you think you have to give up your weekend so that Billy's parents can go off and play then you are stating that they are better than you and you do not deserve to enjoy your life.
Again, we are not talking about denying help to others, we are making a declaration that our time is valuable... it is all we have... and we must make our choices with that in mind. How valuable is our time?
Valuing our time is a key to our self-esteem. Our lives are comprised of time... if we don't value our time, we don't value our lives... and if we don't value our lives, how can we possible value ourselves?
You see, we often think we have to value ourselves first, and then we will automatically value our time. Sure, that can be true, but it's not as easy to get a handle on. We can't control "Our Life"... there are too many factors involved... but we can value our time... it's singular... and it can be controlled in every moment. We don't have to wait until tomorrow to get control of it, because by then, a whole day would have slipped by... all we have to do is say, "this moment, this moment right here, is very value to me... and I'm going to do the most with it that I can."
Just changing that... that one, singular moment, can -- and will -- change the entire direction of all your tomorrows to come.
Every moment is precious... hold it while you can and make it golden.
You know, you can have more or less money than the next person... you can even have more or less money than you did just yesterday... but the thing we all have an equal amount of is time. We may not have equal number of days, but each of us has twenty four hours to each day we have... and each of us has the same amount in this day than we did yesterday.
Time, it doesn't matter how much of it you have... it matters how much you do with it.
There never seems to be enough time, to do the things you want to do, once you find them... why is that? What is Time, anyway?
Scientists, philosophers and, yes, even Gurus have pondered that question since the beginning of time. It's as if if we could just figure out what time is, then maybe we can do something more with it. People play with time all the time... they want to speed it up when they're young... slow it down when they're old... go back and change just a few things here and there.
One reason we don't change time like that is because we'd end up losing so much of Life's Little Lessons. Time is an experience of sequences. It gives us a chance to see different aspects of the same thing... watching the seasons change, for instance... or watching a puppy turn into a full grown dog... watching ourselves grow...
Do you really think that if we never saw ourselves change, we would really be motivated to change our lives? You know, a lot of the things we do are motivated by the fact that we see our bodies change, we see time as something we have less of... and so, we need that in order to get off our duffs and do something with our lives.
Time is here so we don't have to do everything at once. We can structure things. Our lives can be built on a cycle of growth and decay. It's so we can see our lives one piece at a time, moving around it so that we can get every possible angle in before we have to leave this world behind. Time is part of the experience. Life would never be the same without it.
And yet a sad part of all this is... how many people really do something with their time? What do you do with it?
Do you find yourself getting caught up in time, constantly worried about deadlines, rushing to get to work, speed-eating your lunch, rushing off to home... rush rush rush?
Or do you find yourself lagging behind, seemingly waiting for your life to begin?
The biggest question today is, are you happy with your life?
Are you at peace with Time?
You know the old adage, "No one has ever said on their death beds that they had wished to spend more time at the office." Are you taking the time out to enjoy the moment?
And if you're one of the slow pokes, are you waiting for your life to come bump you in the butt? Are you waiting for someone else to come live your life for you? What are you waiting for?
Here's one for you, are you one of those that find yourself always doing too much... always doing things for everyone else, but yourself... never able to say "no"... always feeling so good when you're helping someone else, but always feeling guilty when doing something for yourself? (Got you pegged, huh?)
Well, I've got the answer for all of you... for those that do too much, for those that don't do enough... for anyone who wants to be at peace with themselves and with Time. Here is the key to solving this problem:
When it comes to Time, Value Your Own. Period.
Seems simple, doesn't it? If you take a closer look though, you'll understand that it's far more comprehensive than that.
Now notice, I didn't tell you how to value your time. I didn't tell you to take a vacation, or to work extra hours, or get a new job or even a new life. I'm asking you to add just one more thing to your life... and that's value. believe me, the rest will take care of itself.
Let me show you how.
Say for instance you have a hard time saying "no" to people. "Can you take care of Little Billy for me this weekend?" "Can you stay an extra two hours to finish up this project?" "Can you give me... get me... buy me... blah blah blah."
Now, if you valued your time, you may still do these things. Of course you would love to stay with Billy or work longer, but this time, you'll be doing it because you want to and not because you'll be manipulated... And, if you would rather do something else besides "blah, blah, blah", then that choice, too, will be up to you. You will be valuing your time... making decisions based on what is good for you?
Now is there something wrong with that? Is a little voice going off beside your ear saying, "I could never turn them down, it would make me feel bad" or worse yet, "That would be selfish of me to do that!"
Would it? Would it actually be selfish if you took time for yourself? If you think you have to give up your weekend so that Billy's parents can go off and play then you are stating that they are better than you and you do not deserve to enjoy your life.
Again, we are not talking about denying help to others, we are making a declaration that our time is valuable... it is all we have... and we must make our choices with that in mind. How valuable is our time?
Valuing our time is a key to our self-esteem. Our lives are comprised of time... if we don't value our time, we don't value our lives... and if we don't value our lives, how can we possible value ourselves?
You see, we often think we have to value ourselves first, and then we will automatically value our time. Sure, that can be true, but it's not as easy to get a handle on. We can't control "Our Life"... there are too many factors involved... but we can value our time... it's singular... and it can be controlled in every moment. We don't have to wait until tomorrow to get control of it, because by then, a whole day would have slipped by... all we have to do is say, "this moment, this moment right here, is very value to me... and I'm going to do the most with it that I can."
Just changing that... that one, singular moment, can -- and will -- change the entire direction of all your tomorrows to come.
Every moment is precious... hold it while you can and make it golden.
Thursday, July 03, 2008
Saturday, June 07, 2008
A brief moment
For a brief moment, it was (or will be) June 7, 2008 at 9:10 am... that's 06-07-08 9:10 am... in fact, for one second, it will be 06-07-08 9:10:11 am.
Did you notice it? Did it slip past like so many other moments?
So what are you doing with these moments that sparkle and fade away in the blink of an eye?
Each moment is special... yet is gone whether we do something about it or not.
So what will you do with the precious moments that are coming your way?
Here one comes again!
Monday, May 26, 2008
In memorium
Whether or not you agree with the war, the candidates or each other... always remember the sacrifices that others made so that you may live free.
Think back and thank those that you knew... and those the world has long forgotten... the ones that brought you to this day... that helped shape you to be who you are now... and who inspire you to become better tomorrow.
While we honor those that sacrificed their lives, let us not forget those that sacrificed the time in their lives as well. People paid it forward a long time ago... even though they cannot see the fruits of their sacrifice... be grateful that you can.
Honor all those before you, by living the dream they had... by being the person that brings about the end of wars, and poverty, and sickness, and suffering...
So that no one today needs to sacrifice for tomorrow.
Keep that light on!
For everyone.
Think back and thank those that you knew... and those the world has long forgotten... the ones that brought you to this day... that helped shape you to be who you are now... and who inspire you to become better tomorrow.
While we honor those that sacrificed their lives, let us not forget those that sacrificed the time in their lives as well. People paid it forward a long time ago... even though they cannot see the fruits of their sacrifice... be grateful that you can.
Honor all those before you, by living the dream they had... by being the person that brings about the end of wars, and poverty, and sickness, and suffering...
So that no one today needs to sacrifice for tomorrow.
Keep that light on!
For everyone.
Sunday, May 11, 2008
40 Tips for Better Life - 2008
This came in the email bin today...
40 Tips for Better Life - 2008
1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'
5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, tai chi, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water.. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. GOD heals almost everything.
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
40. Forward to everyone you care about.
40 Tips for Better Life - 2008
1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'
5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, tai chi, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water.. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. GOD heals almost everything.
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
40. Forward to everyone you care about.
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