Saturday, August 21, 2010

Those who know, know.. y'know?

There's a saying, "never explain, your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe it anyway" yet all too often we get distracted by someone else's opinion that is less than favorable.

That happens because we have this desire to be loved and accepted by all, and it can be shocking to find out that other people simply don't see the world the way we do. Or even tougher to deal with, another person has gone on a very direct attack on our beliefs or our character.

It can be so jarrng as to knock you out of the game.

If you let it.

So don't.

Everyone has an opinion
First take a look at what they're saying. Is it simply a difference of perspective? They may not be attacking youl they may simply be stating their view in a very strong way. You can look at that with curiosity, instead of defensiveness and see if you may sway in yoru opinion or reconfirm your own perspective.

Consider the source
Is this someone who genuinely loves and cares about you and what they are saying is in your best interest? Is it well-intended? Or is this someone who feels the need to put you down in order for them to feel better about themselves? Some people are disruptive because it's the only way they know how to stay in control. Instead of reacting to them in a confrontation, you have other choices. You can question them to see how strong they can withstand scrutiny, or you can choose to ignore them, if their argument does nto warrent further discussion.

Seek good company
Confronting others can leave you frazzled. Seek out the company of people who love and support you. It will be a welcome relief and give you a 'safe' place to recuperate.

Get to the core
Reflect upon the very core of the issue. Learn, if there are lessons. Reconnect, if there are commitments. It never hurts to reconnect to your core values; in fact, it can be invigorating.

Get back on course
Get back to taking actions that are true to yourself and your beliefs. Just because the wind blows doesn't mean you ahve to go off-course. You can just adjust your sails.

Keep the light on!

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