Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Trim more than the tree this holiday season

All through December, the focus is on trimming the tree, until January, when the focus is on trimming the waistline... but there’s so much more to trimming than baubles, beads and bellies. Trimming down has a way of freeing us. We can fly higher because we’re not weighed down so much.

Trim Your Possessions

I love to ‘clean house’ at the end of every year. I go through my closet and take out everything and 20% is not allowed back in. I go though the books I’m finished reading, and set aside 10% for charity and 10% for friends and then I do a sweep through my house for anything else whose time has come.

Taking it to a charity does many things. It puts your stuff to good use, it helps others in need, it’s a great tax write-off and it just feels good to help.


Trim Your Expenses

Lowering your expenses is not just for bad economies anymore. There are so many ways to save money, with very little effort, and without sacrificing quality. You can cut out those things you just don’t need (I got rid of all the “special packages” that the cable company offers; you may even want to get rid of the cable altogether). You can exchange one service for another that’s less expensive (like shopping around for phone service or insurance). You could even ask for lower rates, if your service provider wants to keep you as a customer. And, of course, there are always coupons (same great product, only cheaper).

Take care of the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves.


Trim Your Associations

When MySpace and Facebook first came out, it became a race to see who could get the most “friends”... but seriously, ask yourself this, if you were ever in need of help, who would really come to your rescue and who would just tweet about it? And IRL (In Real Life) how many people do you deal with that take up more time than you’ve got?

It might seem bad to separate yourself from others. After all, no one likes being ‘rejected’ just as much as you might not like being seen as ‘selfish’ but it’s time to take a close look at all the people in your life. There are those that really love and care about you... and they’re not getting as much time as they could because of these ‘other people’.


Trim Your Commitments

It’s amazing how much stuff we DO. We spend so much time DOING that we have no time to get anything DONE. I know, I know, the world will come to an end of you don’t do XYZ; and if you don’t do it, it won’t get done... yadda yadda yadda. Sit down and look at your calendar. For every five things you do, consider dropping one of them. That’s 20% right there.


Trim Your Extras

And then there’s just STUFF… you know, the miscellaneous stuff that just sort of tags along in your life. I’d list them, but I just don’t have the time. Don’t worry, if you look, you’ll spot them. Just look at everything in your life, and if it’s just sort of “there” which doesn’t really add much to your “here” then just let it go.

If you do all that, what you’ll get in exchange is more time, more space and more money. Then you can take your remaining 80% and give it your all!

If you forget the list, just remember P-ossessions, E-xpenses, A-ssociations, C-Commitments, E-xtras. You’ll also get PEACE… and isn’t that really what it’s all about?

Peace, out!

And keep the light on!
GuruStu

Friday, December 24, 2010

You're prefect just the way you are

The problem with ‘Perfect’ is that it’s constantly moving and shifting. As soon as you think you’ve got it, someone else comes along to tell you that it’s something else entirely!

You’ve heard the saying “nobody’s perfect” so why even try? The pressure’s too much, and you’re bound for disappointment.

Instead focus on becoming your best, and doing your best each and every single time. Sure, run the race to be #1, but don’t label that as “perfect”. Doing your best and getting the best results are where it’s at.

And to that I add… “even when you’re not #1”

Do you know why we’re not “perfect”? It’s so we’ve got something to work on while we’re here in Life. It gives us something to strive for, and something to look back on and say “hey, I did it!”

And just between you and me, don’t you find “imperfect” people more interesting? People with quirky ways of seeing things, and scars with stories? I love those people!

People who are people.

People who not only embrace their humanity, but raise up the very definition of humanity just by being themselves.

That’s why I love you.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Just because one chapter is closed, doesn't mean the story's over

There’s a lyric in the song “Closing Time” by Semisonic that says so much, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”

Sometimes we get so caught up in something that when it ends, as most things do, we end up overwhelmed by grief.

Now there are monumental times in our lives that require grieving, and those moments need to be revered; but getting caught up in grieving every... little... ending... only ties us to the past. We stay stuck like a lead balloon.

OK, let’s face it, change is uncomfortable. It’s unfamiliar, full of uncertainty and our imaginations can fill in the unknown with all sorts of monsters… but it’s also incredibly exciting! New experiences lead to new growth. It can lead to the letting go of bad habits and the disappointments of unfulfilled expectations. It’s hopeful.

So when some chapter of your life is done, just be grateful for all that it has done for you; then look ahead. There’s still so much more of YOU left untold.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Believe it's going to get better... even on the good days

You ever notice that we cheer ourselves up through the bad times by reciting “It’s going to get better” yet when things are going really good we forget about it... or worse, think “this isn’t going to last”? You wouldn’t think you’d think of sabotaging all the good things in life, but it happens all the time; in very subtle ways. They may not even be catastrophic setbacks, just tiny little adjustments that keep you from getting higher than you’ve gotten in the past.

So when things are starting to go your way, keep checking in with what you’re saying to yourself and others about those moments. Are you playing humble (“Oh it was nothing”)? Or self-sacrificing (“I don’t deserve this”)? Or are you being receptive (“I like this!”) and grateful (“Thank you!!”)?

You know something... gravity has been lying to you. It gave you the idea that what goes up MUST come down... and you’ve been applying that to EVERYTHING else in your life.

What goes up can keep going up. There’s really no limit. Beyond UP is OUT... and OUT is infinite.

So get OUT of your own way, and keep UP now, will you?!

And keep that light on!
GuruStu

Sunday, December 05, 2010

Sometimes stepping back is moving forward.

You know that saying "Can't see the forest for the trees." Basically it means, you're just too close. You can't see the big picture and everything just seems so much bigger than it really is.

Kind of like Life, eh?

Often times, you'll hear me say that the answers really ARE that simple. Actually, most answers are simpler than we think. It's just whenever I say that, the other person then engulfs me with all the reasons that their situation is DIFFERENT... detail after detail, trying to get me to see things as close as they do.

Well, blinding me with details won't actually solve your problem.

Backing away from it will.

When was the last time you actually took a break? Do you actually take a day off each week just to catch your breath? Or do you pack those days up with all the details you neglect during the week?

How about just taking a break during the day... for ten minutes at a time? Or do you 'just don't have the time'?

When you're constantly too close, you lose more than just the bigger picture... you lose time as well. When you don't take the time, you actually end up not having the time.

That seems contradictory, but it really isn't.

When you take a break, and step back, you get insight that can save you time in the long run. It's like being on the top of the mountain, where you can see a shorter route that you wouldn't notice if you were in the valley below.

So this week, take the time to step back. Give yourself some breathing room... give yourself some space to get a fresher perspective... take a moment for your Self... and you'll see just how far forward you can go by stepping back.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Anything that ruffles your feathers is just a reminder that you've got wings.

A million times a day, you can find something to irk you... turn on the TV, read a newspaper or listen in on your co-workers latest rant for a few minutes and you'll find yourself boiling over in no time. That's because there's always going to be something to complain about, just because someone doesn't see things the same way you do.

Do you really want your day to be all about THAT?

Oh, sure, you say "I can't help it" or "I've got to be informed about what's going on around me"... but, yes, you CAN help it... and, no, you don't need to be informed... if that information disrupts your inner peace.

Yes, I know it's your (spouse, kids, parents, siblings, insert your other choice here)... of course, drama just has this nasty knack of finding you.

But...

It stops at YOU. You're the gatekeeper. You decide if it gets in or not... you let it get to you... or not.

When the wind blows against you, your feathers are going to get ruffled... but guess what... that means you've got feathers... attached to your WINGS.

And if you've got wings, you can FLY... you can RISE above it all.

So turn it OFF, tune it OUT and take it UP.

And, as always, keep the light on!

GuruStu

Thursday, November 25, 2010

It's a hand out when you give TO somebody, but a hand up when you give FOR somebody.

Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday here in the U.S. It's a time that reminds us to stop and be grateful for what we have and marks the beginning of the Holiday Season. It's a time when we shift our focus to the giving to others, especially the less fortunate. While I think that's wonderful, and is far better than "nothing at all" I want to give this word of warning...

Don't give TO somebody. It might give someone a warm stomach, but it won't give them a warm heart. It won't solve their problems... and really, you're only doing it to absolve yourself; to feel better for a year of treating others like they are invisible or worse a plague on a otherwise pristine world.

Instead, as we head into this season, think about giving FOR somebody. Really focus on what THEY need. Yes, they need money. Yes they need a warm meal and a warm place to lay their head... but they also need you to SEE them. A smile, a "hello"; something to say "yes, you still matter."

They need help to help themselves. Some need medicines and social services, others need education and a chance. Compassion and respect are not "Entitlements" to be tossed aside during budget cuts. Doing that only costs US more.

So by all means, give those donations to charities, spend your day on at a food bank. It will matter.

Just don't let these acts of kindness disappear like a New Years resolution.

In January and February.... in July, when you're off to Disneyland... every day... help others. It will matter then just as much as now; maybe even more so.

But don't do it for YOU, because then it's just another way to separate you from others.

Today is Thanks GIVING... so be thankful, not just for what you HAVE, or what you'll GET next month, but for what you can GIVE... today, and every day.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

To all the Madonnas of the world...

One of the most amazing events of this year has been the Next Top Spiritual Author Contest. Although I was thrilled to make it to Round 3, I was even more thrilled to make friends with some truly amazing people.

I'm sharing their light every chance I get...

That's why I wanted to tell you about Karen McGregor. Karen’s mission to touch 1 million souls with her book “The Madonna Code - Mysteries of the Divine Feminine Unveiled.”

The book is having a special sale on Wednesday, Nov 24th only, so I hope you check out the details below and pick up a copy.

Just so you know, this is not a affiliate program and I'm not getting anything for it... well, other than tons of good will.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

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Monday, November 15, 2010

The only thing to stop you from knowing it all is thinking you already do.

Now I don't want to tell you something you already know... but you don't really know it all... and if you think you do, then you never will.

Of course what you DO know is invaluable... it shapes your world and gets you through the day... and it took you this long to figure it out... so... so far, so good.

Just know that Life has so much more that it wants to show you... so many wondrous mysteries to unfold... and just knowing that you have yet to know it, opens up your eyes and your opportunities to get to know it.

"Not knowing" is good... providing you stay on the path to learning... and still want to see what's beyond that bend and over that mountain. Because when you've 'had enough' that's all you get.

The fastest way to block your view is to think that there's nothing left to see...

And the fastest way to fall behind, is to think you're ahead of everyone else.

'Everything' is all around you, so there can never be a destination... only paths around it... and to see 'everything' you've got to keep moving, and looking, and learning.

PS And if you want to see more from where you're standing, it'd be really nice if you turned the light on just a little brighter.

GuruStu

Monday, November 08, 2010

On a scale of One, you're a Ten!

Everything is relative, or so the theory says. It doesn’t really have to be. Something is only relative to something else when we compare them. But what if we don’t? What if we see everything as unique unto itself… beyond comparison? How about experiencing everything as it is, not how it’s supposed to be, or could be, or used to be… or any be… just as it is.

And how about YOU? Have you been busy comparing yourself to everything else around you? Or how you used to be? Or how you want to be?

Yeah, well don’t feel guilty about it, since guilt is all relative anyway ;-)

And aren’t we all just a part of the same thing? Aren’t we all One? Then there really is no comparison, since there’s nothing to compare One to.

So just be the number one in the One… and together we’ll all be Tens.

Relatively speaking, that is.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Make sure even the smallest steps are part of the larger journey

Life isn’t just one big moment, a giant leap from birth to death. It’s a journey of many, many small steps… and they can wander from one place to the next, or they can be focused on getting to where you want to get to. The choice is yours.

It’s just that so often we see the small steps as just that… small… and then we think that they don’t really matter. It’s in there that leads us astray… because when we THINK they’re small, we ACT as if they’re small. That’s going to get us small results. Why? Because the value we get OUT of Life comes from the value we put IN to every living moment.

So when you take that next step, don’t worry if it seems small… take it. Make it yours. Make it count.

Because it does.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Imperfect days can have perfect endings.

A day is really just an arbitrary collection of moments, and to lump it all into a 'good day' or a 'bad day' is really unfair to the little moments along the way. One moment doesn't have to have any affect on another, unless we let it. We can choose to keep each moment sacred... and make the most of each one, no matter what happened the moment before.

How often do you let your moments spill over into the other ones? Do you take work home with you? Did the morning rush at home, start your work day off on the wrong foot?

That's what you get for muddying the moments.

Give yourself a break.

Literally.

Create a breakpoint along your journey... maybe it's a landmark to and from work, or your front door at home... just some signal that says "what's past is past, I now focus on the future." You do it every morning when you wake up, so why not do it again before your night begins?

Also create a ritual for yourself, like taking a nice hot shower, where you can imagine all the ills of the day to simply wash away. The key is to start off refreshed.

Then become determined to have that perfect ending to the day. Look around and ask yourself "With what I have right now, how can I make it 'perfect'?"

Don't (and I mean DON'T) think about what a perfect ending would be, and then depress yourself because you don't have what you want. I mean... make the perfect ending out of what you DO have.

It's called "making the most with what you have".

Because that makes it doable... and doable is the perfect ending for an otherwise imperfect day.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Sunday, October 03, 2010

Saturday, October 02, 2010

Emotions 101 – Interview with author Luis Angel Diaz

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 12 of the Virtual Blog Tour for Memory in the Cells by author Luis Angel Diaz.


Newly translated from the popular Spanish edition, author Luis Diaz describes his book Memory in the Cells as “where Eckhart Tolle meets What the Bleep Do We Know, but taking you on a much more practical journey.” He says Memory in the Cells teaches “emotional education” and shows the reader how to transform the “pain body” into the “joy body”, helping to heal all aspects of their lives.

Yesterday, Luis visited Glenn M Smith at http://sensitiveselfhelp.com . For today’s stop on the tour, I decided to ask Luis some questions about emotions and how we can understand them and use them to be happier in our lives.


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Stu: I often talk about how thoughts create our spiritual world, while feelings create our physical world. Can you talk about feelings... what they are, where they come from and where they go after we experience them?

Luis: Our thoughts, opinions and beliefs create feelings in us. And the unconscious repetition of feelings determines our inner dialogue and our future actions and behavior.


If you explore your feelings, always, you will find a thought behind each one. Sometimes the belief is very deep and unconscious; these are called, core beliefs or personal lies.


For example, the common core belief many people share (but not many are aware of) is, "I am unworthy". This thought about oneself may trigger feelings of sadness and fear in those who are thinking it. The inner dialogue may say, "I am not important" or "Who cares?" But the opposite of that can also be active where we tell ourselves, "No one should know I am unworthy" or "I have to prove I am worthy!"

When you deeply believe you are unworthy, but you are not aware of it, you can be either totally depressed or totally stressed and overwhelmed with so many things to do. When you need to prove your own worthiness, you don't want to disappoint other people. Therefore, you take on things you wouldn't otherwise do, and you go through life rescuing people.


Imagine the impact of this belief on your health and wellbeing!


Stu: A lot of people let their emotions rule them, rather than the other way around. Why is that? How can they 'turn it around' so they can gain control of their lives?

Luis: Imagine the life experience of the child of a paranoid mother. What kind of feelings would this child have? A lot of fear, probably. He doesn't verify what his mother is saying. He just believes it and has feelings as a result.


Our bodies are always innocent. The mind matures but the body is always like a child. The body wants to love and be loved, play and have fun. It’s curious and likes adventure. That is the reason you see old people becoming like little kids after losing their mental capabilities. Without the mind and its cultural programming, things would be much simpler for us.


Our thoughts create reactions in our innocent body that "believes everything" the mind says, just like the child and his mother from the first paragraph. Harmony and wellbeing are the result of finding the balance between body and mind. It’s not achieved by killing the mind or by ruling over the body as we were told. We need the mind and we need the body working and supporting each other. The old paradigm that says the body needs to be controlled by the mind has created enough suffering in us.


When feelings in the body are allowed and not repressed, they move and we heal. When they move, they become emotions. Moving emotion is healthy as long as I take responsibility for them and don’t use them to blame others. Moving emotion is exercising our nature as energy beings that are created to recycle energy, instead of storing it.


We need emotional education. We need to know that toxic thoughts are going to create toxic feelings in us. We need to be educated in natural ways to release the emotional pollution that is the result of the feelings we have been suppressing.


Stu: How can someone positively envision something without getting caught in emotional expectations?


Luis: What is not true creates pain. What is true creates expansion and wellbeing. If we believe in lies, we suffer.


What you called "emotional expectation" is the effect upon the body causes by the activity of the mind. In this case, the mind imagines a future that matches what that mind believes. Therefore, it creates excitement or positive expectations within the body.


For example, let’s say you meet someone you like, and two hours into the conversation you are imagining yourself having a family with this person. This imagination is called fantasy and is just as toxic as negative expectations. It’s the result of a programming received by the culture we were brought up.


For visioning to be effective and genuine, it needs to be fueled by the person's values. These are the core priorities that generate aliveness inside us and connection with our source. The moment we bring the cultural programming into the process, it gets polluted and the whole thing stops working.


Stu: What advice would you give to people who try to avoid all negative emotions, thoughts, situations, etc?


Luis: We all want freedom and love and peace; isn’t that true? They are what I called "human values". There are several of them, but I am going to use these three as examples.


How do we feel when we don’t have these values? Angry, upset, sad, anxious, afraid, etc.


How do we feel when we do have them? Joyful, calm, creative, inspired, connected to life, loving, etc.


Both negative and positive feelings are important for us. We need to listen to all of them. They tell us how far or how close we are from our values. It’s not true that we need to avoid the first and favor the second in order to have good life. On the contrary, feelings, (positive or negative) are part of our guidance system. And without this system we are lost and confused.


Stu: What's one thing that people can do RIGHT NOW to change the course of their lives for the better?


Luis: I teach and train people to reconnect with their bodies and honor and respect their feelings, especially the negative ones. They are all messages to the owner. If we dismiss those messages, they will keep coming back louder and louder until we finally hear them!


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I hope you enjoyed this interview with Luis Angel Diaz and that you’ll check out his new book Memory in the Cells, which is coming to Amazon on Tuesday October 5, 2010. You can receive a complete library of beautiful personal development gifts when you buy the book on the day of its launch, including one from me: a free download of "Toon Up Your Life.”


In addition, Luis is hosting a very special FREE telesummit entitled “Healing at a Cellular Level” on September 27th, 28th and 29th with a distinguished panel of some of today’s most inspiring authors and speakers on the topic of emotional healing and holistic wellbeing. If you’d like to attend, all you have to do is request a “launch reminder” about the book, and you’ll receive all the information to attend. If you cannot make the live event, you can download the audio at your convenience.


To find out how to buy Luis’s book and receive these gifts,
including the FREE pass to the 3-day online telesummit, go to

http://www.memoryinthecells.com



AND you can read all about the telesummit and the guests at http://tinyurl.com/cmr-telesummit


Be sure to follow Luis tomorrow when the next stop on his Virtual Blog Tour is Callie Carling´s Blog http://empoweredhealer.co.uk


As usual, please do feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Giving in is not giving up

Life has its moments... of uplifting joy and debilitating sadness. Welcome to Life. It only seems unfair because we can't feel the pain of others, and our load seems heaviest because it's what we have to carry.

But everyone goes through life in their own way, the best way they know how.

And I know that there are times when you feel that the best you can do isn't good enough... that it's all 'too much'... and you just want to give up. I get it. I've been there.

But it's at times like that when giving up just won't solve the problem. In fact, it probably will make it worse.

So, instead, just give in.

Give in to the pain and the sorrow... and the frustrations that darken every moment. You're human... and one of the gifts we get with the human experience is feeling emotions. THEY are not our enemies. So don't fight THEM.

When you give up, you stop taking action. When you give in, you might feel horrible, but you do it anyway. When you give up, you can feel like a failure... when you give in, you end up feeling human (and that's really not a bad thing at all!)

So give yourself permission to be yourself... going through what you're going through. Feel that you're going to feel, and adjust your actions to match your current CIRCUMSTANCES rather than your current MOOD.

You are better than what tries to bring you down. So don't give in to THEM... give in to YOU.

And THAT will keep the light on!

GuruStu

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Piece, Out...

Peace by Piece... a New Dawn Awaits!

Remember the interview I did on Saturday with E. Dee Conrad? Well, today (Tuesday September 21st) is the official launch of the brand new book by E.Dee Conrad, A New Dawn Awaits: The Times ahead and How to Shift Your Consciousness.

What's most interesting is that this book, which has so much to do with the future of humanity, is celebrating its launch on World Peace Day (although the launch wasn't planned that way). In this time of stress and anxiety the link between E.Dee’s book and World Peace Day seems such a perfect fit.

A New Dawn Awaits is described as being, “a compassionate and inspiring channelled collection of short inspirational reflections, bringing together wisdom of the ages, showing us how to access knowledge that has been part of our consciousness, but has been dormant, for eons. It is a book to help readers reach inwards into their divine essence and outwards to the energy that connects us as one humanity.”

The launch started officially at 12:01 AM Pacific, Tuesday September 21st.

If you purchase A New Dawn Awaits today, you can receive a complete library of personal development gifts from dozens of leading authors, coaches, healers and teachers on the subject of consciousness and self-awareness.

To purchase the book can claim your bonus gifts, just go to http://tinyurl.com/NewDawnAwaits

There you will find links to purchase the book from Amazon (US, Canada and UK), and instructions on how to claim your bonus gifts, including a collection of my cartoons, "Toon Up Your Life" and some other stuff I threw in "just because."

Last week, hundreds of listeners got to know 1st-time author E.Dee Conrad, when she and me dear friend Lynn Serafinn co-hosted the 3-Day Telesummit entitled, “The Shift. The Message. The Transformation.” If you were amongst these listeners, I'm sure you'll agree with Lynn when she says, “E.Dee is one of the kindest, most balanced and natural people I know, and her message is full of compassion, hope and common sense.”

Lynn also says, “I believe when people read New Dawn Awaits, it will help them to rise above the anxieties the media tend to stir up about the future. On the other hand, I also believe E.Dee’s book will help to bring people’s understanding of the evolution of consciousness out of the realm of the ‘cosmic’, and back down to Earth at a practical level.”

I know E.Dee’s motivation for writing the book is simply to “get the message out”: the message that “a new dawn awaits” —a bright and exciting new dawn—for all of us in the times ahead. I do encourage you to check out A New Dawn Awaits on World Peace Day, Tuesday Sept 21st.

Buy A New Dawn Awaits by E.Dee Conrad on Sept 21st
and can claim your bonus gifts at
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Don’t worry about not having enough time to download all the bonus gifts. As long as you purchase the book during the launch, you’ll have access to the download page until the end of September.

AND… if you happened to miss the 3-Day Telesummit, you also can download the audio for free when you buy the book during the launch, as her gift to you.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Know your limitations. None.

From the time we're born, we're taught to believe that we are limited; constantly told we can't do something, or are compared to others, or told that we need to be humble about our own magnificence.

Now I know that not everyone does things the same... and, of course, there are people who excel at things you don't... but that doesn't mean that you have to feel LIMITED.

The secret is to do what you do do and don't do what you don't do.

Within the realm of your possibilities are infinite combinations. All you need to do is focus on what you do well, and do it better... fill yourself up and push aside whatever makes you feel "less than".

... Then have fun mixing and matching your skills until you can discover just how multi-faceted you really are.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Today is where tomorrow begins...

A New Dawn AwaitsWhenever I go on an adventure, I love taking a tour, don't you? It not only helps you to find your way around, it gives you details you wouldn't get by going it alone.

The same goes for this little stop here.

This is Day 12 of the Virtual Blog Tour for A New Dawn Awaits by author E.Dee Conrad, and I'm your humble tour guide for the day.

A New Dawn Awaits is a compassionate and inspiring channelled collection of short inspirational reflections, bringing together wisdom of the ages, showing us how to access knowledge that has been part of our consciousness, but has been dormant, for eons. E.Dee’s intention in writing this book is to help readers reach inwards into their divine essence and outwards to the energy that connects us as one humanity.

Yesterday, E.Dee visited Callie Carling’s blog http://www.holisticfeathers.co.uk/.

As part of my teaching "DARE to be your BEST" I stress the importance of going beyond Thought. Of course, Thoughts ultimately creates our Physical Worlds, but what creates Thought?

So, for today’s stop on the tour, I interview E.Dee on the topic of consciousness, that which shapes our thoughts, and where we, as a humanity, are heading next.E. Dee Conrad

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Stuart: So tell me, what is "Consciousness"?

E.Dee: Consciousness is your awareness of your unique thoughts, emotions, memories, and environment. It is your awareness of what is going on around you and inside of you.

Stuart: How can someone become a "conscious being"?

E.Dee: A “conscious being” is one who is knowingly aware of what is going on in their internal as well as external worlds. We can all increase our level of individual awareness by paying attention to our thoughts.

Stuart: If thoughts shape our reality, what shapes our thoughts?

E.Dee: Emotions are the cornerstone upon which all thoughts and actions are based. Without emotions, there would be no you. Emotions create and color your thoughts. These thoughts then bring about a manifested reality, a tangible world full of experiences and events.

Stuart: People often think they want something that they really don't want? How can they get into alignment with what they truly want?

E.Dee: One way is to become aware of what emotion is driving the desire. Is it a positive and constructive emotion or is it a negative and destructive emotion?

In order to be in balance and harmony with the universe, try to live your life according to the principles of unconditional love and gratitude. Try to think of others like you would want them to think of you. Treat others like you would want them to treat you.

Stuart: What trips people up the most when manifesting things into their lives?

E.Dee: Not knowing or understanding what is really motivating you or what emotion is driving you can create hiccups in the manifestation process. For example, if you are trying to manifest a new job and your motivation is a need for power, then you will never have enough to alleviate the thirst for power because it is a negative emotion and negative emotions can never be fully satisfied.

Don’t try to control or create your future. Life is not meant to be a struggle or a competition. Life is a delicate balance few of us understand, so let go and see what life brings.

Learn to embrace change and take action from a place of peace and balance, and not fear or doubt. Be grateful for what you have and what you do not have, knowing that you are a creator of your life, not a victim of it.

Stuart: With 2012 just around the corner, some people are saying that the world is coming to an end, while others say it's just coming to an end as we know it. Where do you see the world coming to?

E.Dee: The universe, like nature, is cyclical and we are coming to the end of a cycle. At this moment, we are standing on stage and ready to witness the greatest transformation of spirit humankind has ever experienced. Humanity is beginning to wake up to the true nature of reality. Not everyone will make the shift at this time, but those who do will find themselves in a world where spiritual growth has replaced greed and the need for money and power.

Stuart: What can we do NOW to change tomorrow?

E.Dee: Become aware of your thoughts. Awareness alone is enough to bring about a change in your thought patterns without additional effort on your part. Your negative thoughts will automatically decrease and your positive thoughts will increase, bringing about a better life for you and everyone else.

Stop putting out more hatred and fear. Take responsibility and do what you can to minimize the cycle of pain and grief the world is now experiencing. Get in touch with your inner self, your inner being, and re-access your limitless supply of compassion and understanding. Help make the world a better place immediately by putting away your fears and worries and getting in touch with your eternal core, your eternal essence of love.

You don’t have to become perfect overnight. All you have to do is make an attempt…try. That is all you have to do in order to proceed to the next level of being.

Stuart: Thanks for sharing YOUR thoughts!


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I hope you enjoyed this interview with E.Dee Conrad and that you’ll check out her book A New Dawn Awaits, which is coming to Amazon on Tuesday September 21, 2010. You can receive a collection of over 30 beautiful personal development gifts when you buy her book on the day of her launch.

In addition, E.Dee is hosting a very special FREE telesummit entitled “The Shift. The Message. The Transformation” on September 14th, 15th and 16th with nine of today’s most vibrant authors and speakers on the topic of the consciousness, transformation and the global “shift” occurring on our planet today. If you’d like to attend, all you have to do is request a “launch reminder” about the book, and you’ll receive all the information to attend. If you cannot make the live event, you can download the audio at your convenience.

To find out how to buy E.Dee’s book and receive these gifts, including the FREE pass to the 3-day online telesummit, go to http://spiritauthors.com/pages/edee/new-dawn-awaits-by-edee-conrad.html

AND you can read all about the telesummit and the guests on the 3 days at
http://virtualspiritualevents.com

Be sure to follow E.Dee tomorrow when the next stop on her Virtual Blog Tour is
Paula Tarrant’s blog at http://www.inspiredwomenwork.com/blog.

As usual, please do feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.


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Come spend time at my main site, GuruStu.com

Thursday, September 16, 2010

When you're a party of one, shouldn't you be the life of it?

Parties are interesting events, aren't they? Some people love 'em, other people despise them. And then there are your characters, the "one in every crowd"... the loner/wallflower on the one end and the 'life of the party' on the other.

So which are you?

And which one are you when you're a 'party of one'?

You know that old adage, "Bitter... Party of One... Bitter... Party of One!" which is very true that bitter people tend to be alone... but that doesn't mean the reverse has to be true; that just because you're alone, there has to be something wrong.

Now we could talk about being in a relationship and all that, but that's really another story. I just would really rather talk about You... Alone.

Being alone is freedom, even if it's only for five minutes. When you're alone, you're 'it' and the time is all yours.

So do you spend most of it feeling bad that you're alone? Or do you do things just for you? Do you tap into the awesome power of Aloneness?

If you're next thoughts wander into 'but I never have ENOUGH time' or 'I don't know what to do with myself' then you're wasting time. You're wasting NOW because you're thinking about doing nothing when you are alone (when you have no what, you have nowhere)... and you're really going to be wasting time when you get to 'Alone' because you came into it unprepared.

So take the time now, whether you're alone now or not, and think about what YOU really, really want to do.

Then when you have the time to yourself. jump at the opportunity...

... and party hearty!

Keep the light on!

GuruStu

More Now Later...



I love the Now so much, I'm going to have more Now later.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

When the wind is with you, be a sail; when against, be a kite.

I don't know if you noticed this, but the wind blows... pretty much wherever it wants to. It can pick up speed, slow down, change directions at a whim... and none of it is personal.

Of course you wouldn't know it by talking to some people. You know the ones, who usually tell you how much the world is against them. Doesn't matter that the wind is blowing the same direction for you too.

You haven't cursed the wind at that time too, have you?

Good, I didn't think so.

Oh, I know it's tempting to do so and all, but you and I know better... that the wind just blows... and spitting into it usually just ends up with unpleasant results.

So that leaves us with the better choice, of focusing on what we CAN change... ourselves... rather than rely on the wind to do all the work.

So when the wind is at our backs (i.e. The Good Times) that's when it's best to be like a sail... catch the wind... go for the ride as far as you can go... and enjoy it while you're at it!

And then, when the wind shifts and is now coming right at us (i.e. The Bad Times) remember to catch the wind in another way... like a kite. Be lifted up... rise above the forces that appear to be against you. You may not go the distance that you'd like, but boy will you reach new heights!

And, I know you wouldn't think this, but sometimes that obnoxious little voice in people's heads go "yeah, but what do you do when the wind stops completely?"

Row!

Happy journeys and keep the light on!
GuruStu

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

A negative attitude is like an onion. It might taste good to you, but to everyone else, it just stinks.

Have you ever notice how flavorful food becomes when you add onions? The right amount, cooked in just the right way and bam! Your food just rocks!

On the other hand, you ever notice that everyone else knows you've had onions, and their opinions aren't the same as yours?

Yeah, onions are meant for private experiences.

It's the same thing when you have a negative attitude.

It simmers with all your other emotions and it can just feel so good, to feel so bad. Maybe you're fired up with anger, or swept away by your melancholy, or you just feel so comfortable being uncomfortable.

So peal away all the delicate layers... and think twice about it to the recipe of your life. It's not really helping you as much as you think it is and everyone else definitely can smell it a mile away.

Keep it light!
GuruStu

Monday, September 13, 2010

Riddle me this...

Life is a puzzke
Life is a puzzle where not every piece fits.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

It's not about what you want... It's about what you really, really, really, REALLY want.

If you have a child, or ever was one, you know the game of 'why?'. It starts off innocently enough, like "why is the sky blue?" and then the little why's-ones keep asking "why?" to every answer you can come up with (It usually ends with "because I said so" but that's another story).

The point is: It's almost never about the first thing you can think of... or the second... or third... it goes way deeper than that.

The why's dominate our lives and don't turn into wis-dom until we can bring those answers to the surface.

If you ask anyone "What do you want?" you could get a very quick laundry list of more STUFF... bigger home, new car, better job... or it could be a list of LESS stuff... less stress, less weight, less annoying people. Whatever it is, it isn't the answer.

So ask "why?"
The first level down usually uncovers a desire for more pleasure or less pain. It's showing some of the misalignment between where someone is and where they want to be.

But it's still not the answer.
When you get to the "What do you really, really, really want" level (3 levels down) you start to get a glimpse of the person underneath... without the "responsibilities" and "details" and "excuses" that weigh them down and keep them from manifesting their authentic lives.

I find a lot of marketers target this area in other people's lives. They "nail it" with the saying, "Freedom to do what you want to do, with whomever you want to do it with, whenever you want to" (or some variation therein).

Because people do want to be free to be themselves... I mean, don't you?

But then... why?

The deeper you go, the more you will discover that what people really, really, really, REALLY want is to be CONNECTED. The word LOVE often comes up here... or higher beings... or God... or the universe... or LIFE... whatever it is. It will look different for each person, but it's all basically the same.

(Note: people who say they want to disconnect usually do so on one of the upper levels, and it's because they've given up on the idea that connection is possible)

And even if you get to the level where you "know" your deep want to be connected, there's always another "why?" just beyond.

Some people look outside themselves for the answers; and so they look to others to "complete" them... or they buy stuff to impress people they don't really care about. Others look inside themselves... and end up dumping the outside world.

And still others "get it". They know their deepest desires and align their thoughts, words and deeds to match... and their why's become wiser.

And how do I know why that is?

Because I said so :-)

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Saturday, September 11, 2010

You’ll find yourself underneath who you think you are.

From the time we’re born we start adding layers to our lives. We begin by defining our roles as The Child; and as we grow, we learn to play The Student, The Friend, The Lover, The Spouse, The Parent, The Worker… you get the idea.

While roles help us bring order and make progress in our lives, they can also restrict us… especially when we take those roles so seriously. Sure you DO those things, but it’s important to remember that they are not who you ARE.

YOU are so much more than that.

And you’re not going to know that by looking at what you DO.

Go deeper.

Look under the carpet and behind the curtain you call Life.

You’ll find yourself just as soon as you forget yourself.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Friday, September 10, 2010

Don't waste time proving yourself. Spend time leaving proof of yourself.

It's amazing how much time we spend trying to prove ourselves to other people. Some people I know are spending their entire lives trying to please people who aren't even on this planet anymore. That's what happens when we look outside ourselves for some sign that we're "good enough."

You are...

...and you don't need to do that anymore.

Imagine how different your life will be if instead of proving yourself, you spend your time leaving proof that you are here. It will look surprisingly similar, but it will be worlds apart.

You're here because the world needs you... so tell that little voice to shut up.

You have amazing skills and gifts to give... so stop hogging it behind a veil of shyness and false humility.

And what you leave behind is what you make while you are here... so don't wait until then to wish you had something to leave.

Right now, know that you are amazing and what you give now... will change the future.

You don't need the proof... you ARE the proof.

And I don't need to prove it... so just trust me on that.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Monday, September 06, 2010

Of course you're amazing just the way you are, but the world won't know it until you show them.

Do you know what's truly amazing about you? Out of all the variations and combinations that ever were, and ever will be; through all the choices, circumstance and happenstance, everything came together to make YOU.

What are the odds on that? Beyond astronomical. It's astounding!

So you're pretty darn special!

... That's good to know.

Do you wanna know what would be even more special than just you knowing that?

... If the world knew it too.


We are Finite
Yeah, yeah, deep down inside, we are all infinite beings, with infinite possibilities, I know... but within each life here on Earth, we have a certain set of skills and passions and connections; like a hand in a game of cards. That's the way it's supposed to be, because we need to share our cards (ie skills and passions and connections) in order to enhance and expand each other.


We Get More by Giving
When we give to others, two things can happen. The more they like you, the more doors they will open; and secondly, giving to others often triggers their desire to give back.


(I've personally received so much more when I've given more, so I can't GIVE you this advice enough)

People Talk
Good or bad, people like to share. So what you put out there will continue to go out there; all based on the effect you have on them.

On a plus note, that means the more you give, the more that is given.


Show 'Em
Now, while people like to talk, they don't always like to listen. You can tell them how amazing you all all you want, but they probably won't believe you until you SHOW THEM.

You do that by BEING your greatness and by constantly finding new ways to get your greatness out into the world.

So now you know you're amazing and I know you're amazing, but there's a whole big world out there just waiting to know it too.

Keep that light on!

GuruStu

Sunday, September 05, 2010

Acceptance is Acknowledgement, not Abandonment.

Whenever I talk about 'Acceptance' invariably someone brings up some negative encounter; be it an injustice, a disagreement or just plain 'bad luck' ... and then they ask if they MUST accept it.

While my answer to that is "YES" it doesn't mean that you do nothing about it.

'Acceptance' comes in many forms and it will vary based on the situation... but in every case, it's about acknowledging that something is the way it is. It's neither better nor worse, good nor bad; it just is...

One way to accept is to 'Let Go'... it's like taking your hands off the wheel and just watching what happens. It certainly can be freeing, but it also gives up control to anything and everything everything else; so the results may not turn out as you would like.

Another way is to 'Allow'... which is similar to letting go, but more active in the observation. I'd say it's more like 'loosing up your grip' as opposed to 'letting go.'

My favorite form of acceptance though is to 'Affirm'. That means to recognize that 'it is what it is' and accepting your responsibility in making it the best possible experience. Even when it's not the 'ideal' situation to be in, you can still make it the best IT can be. I've often heard that referred to as 'Making the most of a bad situation' or 'Turning lemons into lemonade.'

Whatever it is, it's not burying your head in the sand, tolerating an injustice or being overwhelmed by circumstance. It's embracing life for what it is, reconnecting with what you want it to be, and committing to make it happen.

And you can accept that as your final answer... or not.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Saturday, September 04, 2010

Only keep routines that keep you en route.

Habits are helpful. They can help shape our day; make parts of it easier because of practice and generally give us a sense of identity too.

They can also be harmful, especially when they're small. Smaller habits can actually be bigger problems, because they're small enough to go unnoticed, but they can rob us of valuable time, set us off in the wrong direction or just keep us as small as they are.

Question everything
Just because you've 'always done it this way' doesn't mean that it's good for you. It's just comfortable for you. There's a huge difference.

Try something new
Do one thing differently than you did before. It can be just as small as any other routine; just one you're not used to. You'll notice how 'strange' it seems; which can shed light on the past routine, as well as all the other routines that relied on the old routine. Whole new avenues can open up just by 'trying' one new thing.

Keep the good ones
By trying something new, you'll also find that some of the old ones were chosen for a good reason... they work! If an old routine works to keep you going towards your goals, keep at 'em!

Make 'em bigger
If you want more, and it works, work it more. Either do more of it, do it bigger, or duplicate it. Teaching others your good routines taps into the Law of Leverage... which can help you (and others) grow exponentially.

You know the saying "Success is a journey, not a destination" but did you know that your routines ARE the journey?

So get to the route of it...

...and keep the light on!
GuruStu

Wednesday, September 01, 2010

Gotta love it

Love more
You win when you don't have to.

Maintenance is as important as Growth

Growth is great. It's what propels us forward and gives us a purpose for moving boldly into tomorrow. Yet if all you do is focus on it, you're missing half of the equation.

Once something arrives, it starts to head into the past. It gets used, it gets old; it decays. While it doesn't sound pleasant when you put it like that, it's just a part of the cycle of life. It's needed for the overall sustainability of Life itself. So it's important to recognize it and to live with it.

Acceptance is Acknowledgement, not Abandonment.

Just because you recognize it and accept it for what it is, that doesn't mean you have to just let it happen. Actually it's imperative that you take care of it; that's why it was given to you.

Maintenance is the foundation of Growth. It's your baseline. Growth is simply a higher baseline for you to maintain.

So take the time to care for what you already have. Mend the holes, polish back the shine, and get the rest you need now.

Rejuvenation today means invigoration tomorrow.

Make it shine!
GuruStu

Monday, August 30, 2010

Our lives are not measured by the steps we take, but by the path we leave.

I'm a reflective kind of guy. I don't mean shiny, although I do need SPF80 just to go out in the sun. I mean I like to look back upon the path I've made and think about where I'm going to go next.

I like to do it twice a year... New Year's and my Fiscal Year, also known as my Birthday. It very enlightening to summarize one year's time, as well as look at the half way mark to get that sense of belonging right where you are. Owning the moments... the ones that got you here, and the ones that lay ahead.

When I think about my one year accomplishments, it's astounding to realize that the majority of them actually took place in the first half of this year. It's as if the last half of last year was leading up to what unfolded since January 1.

It was the very last few days of last year when I sat down to write the novelized version of DARE to be your BEST. Every day I immersed myself in it and hardly noticed that three months had gone by when the last few words were captured.

"But only if we DARE."

(I'm not really giving anything away by telling you that)

As if on cue, a status update from a Facebook friend said "I just joined the Next Top Spiritual Author contest, check it out!" popped up on my phone.

"But only if we DARE" popped into my head.

So that moment I jumped right in and committed my energy and love into the contest. what an amazing experience it has been. I put together a book proposal, got onto radio shows, started new joint ventures and made friendships that will far outlast this contest.

The fact that I've made it into the top 25, out of 2,800 original participants ain't bad either. (PS It's up to the judges now, so no more emails from me about voting). What really made the news special was when Round 3 was announced, I was actually at a private retreat with the mentors who inspired the characters in the book. How cool is that?

So now I'm back to my "Sacred Hour" of writing every day, and am immersed in the second draft... realizing just how much I missed these people. The bonds I've formed with my characters are as strong as my friendships among the other participants. To the mind and heart, there is no separation, right?

So what about you?

More than likely it's not your birthday today (I know one other exception to that... Happy Birthday!!) yet we are half way through the course of the year.

Are you half way to your goals for January 1, next year? What do you need to add, subtract or adjust?

I changed course a couple of times this year, and have gotten farther because of it. So it's far from "too late". Even if you make fewer steps this year, you can still take big strides.

"But only if you DARE."

Keep the light on!
Stu

Oh, it was nothing...

Love more
Nothing really is something.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

You always have a choice; even not to believe that.

Have you ever found yourself saying "I don't have a choice" followed by details about "responsibilities" or "inabilities" of some sort; really convincing yourself that there's only one way for you to go.

For that one moment, you're right.

It's not true, but you are right.

You have "no choice" but not because there aren't choices, but rather because you either can't see other options or believe that everything else is less than desirable.

Oh sure, you may face a lot of unpleasant choices, and opt for the less painful one... but what's really, really (really) important here is the recognition that you are STILL MAKING A CHOICE.

Recognizing that brings the control of the situation to you... and that the first step to having more control, and more choices, in the future.

After that, open up your mind to the possibility of other possibilities. When you tie yourself down by limited thoughts and beliefs, you end up with limited results; and that in turn makes it appear like you have less choices.

Expand yourself! The bigger you are, the more choices you have. If you increase your wealth, your health, your family, your friends, your circle expands; and your choices expand in all directions.

Perhaps it comes in the form of more education... or better associations with people living the life you wish for... or a better paying job... whatever it is, go for it. Go for something bigger than your circumstances.

That is... if you want to have more choices.

If you prefer to think you have no choice; well, that's your choice.

Just choose wisely.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Shhh...

Love more
Sometimes what youdon't say is more important.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Those who know, know.. y'know?

There's a saying, "never explain, your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe it anyway" yet all too often we get distracted by someone else's opinion that is less than favorable.

That happens because we have this desire to be loved and accepted by all, and it can be shocking to find out that other people simply don't see the world the way we do. Or even tougher to deal with, another person has gone on a very direct attack on our beliefs or our character.

It can be so jarrng as to knock you out of the game.

If you let it.

So don't.

Everyone has an opinion
First take a look at what they're saying. Is it simply a difference of perspective? They may not be attacking youl they may simply be stating their view in a very strong way. You can look at that with curiosity, instead of defensiveness and see if you may sway in yoru opinion or reconfirm your own perspective.

Consider the source
Is this someone who genuinely loves and cares about you and what they are saying is in your best interest? Is it well-intended? Or is this someone who feels the need to put you down in order for them to feel better about themselves? Some people are disruptive because it's the only way they know how to stay in control. Instead of reacting to them in a confrontation, you have other choices. You can question them to see how strong they can withstand scrutiny, or you can choose to ignore them, if their argument does nto warrent further discussion.

Seek good company
Confronting others can leave you frazzled. Seek out the company of people who love and support you. It will be a welcome relief and give you a 'safe' place to recuperate.

Get to the core
Reflect upon the very core of the issue. Learn, if there are lessons. Reconnect, if there are commitments. It never hurts to reconnect to your core values; in fact, it can be invigorating.

Get back on course
Get back to taking actions that are true to yourself and your beliefs. Just because the wind blows doesn't mean you ahve to go off-course. You can just adjust your sails.

Keep the light on!
GuruStu

PS In the Next Top Spiritual Author contest, you can now leave comments when you vote. Isn't that awesome! Talk abotu a place to be supportive... check it out. http://YESonSTU.com/

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Just a Li'l

We spend a lot of time thinking we need to do a lot of stuff; only to end up doing nothing and losing what time we have. We make it a big all-or-nothing deal, when really all we need is just a lil something to make it all happen.

I used to write "BTN" on the board whenever I was working on a project. People used to think it stood for "button" and wondered "why would he put a button up in that corner?" It actuality, it stood for "Better Than Nothing" and it was to be a simple solution for an immediate need. Many of them grew to become quite something.

It just goes to show you what can happen when you throw in just a lil bit of magic.

Learn a Li'l
It's time to think of one thing that we don't know; doesn't matter what it is... just something we'd like to know that we don't know now. Look it up on the web, go to the library, ask a friend... but take the first step to learning it. The answers are out there, we just need to find them.

Learning just one lil thing adds to the toolbox from which we'll work.

Do a Li'l
Then there's all that stuff that we know we need to do, but have been putting off... fixing the faucet, cleaning out the garage, returning that phone call. Rather than put it off, which really only keeps it hovering over our lives, why not just 'bite the bullet' and get it out of the way.

Doing a lil something that we don't want to do can bring great relief once it's done.

Do a Li'l More
The stuff we do well, we often take for granted. We think since we do it right, we don't need to do it better. Challenge that. Ask, "can I do a lil something to make this good thing great?" You'll be surprised when you realize you can.

We come into this world taking lil steps. It worked then. It'll work now.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

WRONG= Whatever Redirects Our Natural Grace

First off, 'wrong' is a judgmental label, and it's really not my place to discuss that. However, the thoughts we think and the actions that we take do result in experiences that we either like or don't like. So in that case, 'wrong' is any direction that's bumpier than you want it to be.

That's why I broke it down to be "Whatever Redirects Our Natural Grace".

At first I was tempted to say "Natural Growth" but that would have been "wrong" because oftentimes it's the bumpiest, most painful experiences that help us grow the most.

Instead I chose to focus on that inner state of being that we all have; the one that's sheltered from the storm of the physical world; that knows divinity outside the daily world.

Grace is the peaceful state of our spirit; the one we can 'hear' when we're silent... and it's the most natural state of being. when we let it flow to the surface, peace permeates every pore of our lives. When we push our daily worries down inside us, our grace gets clogged and unable to do what it does best.

So it's easy to tell if something is 'wrong'. Just ask yourself, "is there Grace here?" If you can feel the peace and purpose and love and light, then you're on the 'right' track.

Whatever Redirects Our Natural Grace is 'WRONG'

So ask yourself, "Really, Is Grace Here Today?"

RIGHT!

Keep the light on!

GuruStu

Sunday, August 15, 2010

XOXO

Love more
Love helps us re-remember

If it was 'easier done than said' would you do it?

In my inspirational talks to people, I love showing people just how far they really can go. This is typically met with that oft-said resister, "That's easier said than done."

Well, duh!

Why do you think I SAID it?

My 'typical' response back to them includes things like:

"I never said it was easy..."

"Most things are..."

and...

"It's easier done than not done."

All too often, people say "it's easier said than done" not as a recognition of saying vs doing. It's said as an excuse for not doing it.

No matter how much the person may claim they want something, "ESTD" means "It's 'too much work' and I'm not gonna do it."

Fine. No, really, that's fine... don't do it.

Just don't want it anymore...

Just don't sit there depressed or angry with the way things are, and drown yourself in your sorrows and reality series, dreaming you lost all the weight or won the million dollars.

Yes, it IS easier said than done.

But do you WANT it?

If you DO, then you need to DO it.

In the end, it won't have been easier done than said, but it will be so much sweeter a reward DONE, than said and NOT DONE.

Get in it!

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